The Psychology of Romantic Love: Romantic Love in an Anti-Romantic Age Paperback – Deckle Edge, 31 January 2008

Natheniel Branden has influenced my life in many ways. His book on six pillars of self esteem has changed my perspective of my life forever. Now this book on Romantic love has given me rare insights about the inner dynamics between me and my partner. My point is,always we won't end up with a perfect soul mate but we can evolve in the long run by improving our self esteem thereby improves our relationships.

Such an eye opener. This is a Bible on LOVE. Anybody interested in creating and sustaining romantic relationship should read this book.

As a romantic who gets caught up very much in love when in love, I’ve become intrigued to understand the human mind when we experience these feelings and emotions and how we have come to live with love. The author delivers an astounding job researching back to how we loved then vs now and adding not only his own experience but, most importantly, including others as well and constructing the concept of romantic love in an interesting and digestible way for anybody to enjoy. If you’re a true romantic or simply intrigued by the psychological aspect of human emotion, then I stand by this book and recommend reading!!!

Es hat mir so viel über Beziehungen beigebracht. Und zwar vor allem, verschiedene Dinge die zwischen zwischen uns geschehen auch wirklich in Worte fassen zu können, anstatt nur ein dumpfes Gefühl zu haben, dass etwas nicht passt.So kann man viel klarer und erwachsener über alles sprechen und gemeinsam Lösungen finden, anstatt beide emotional zu werden.Ich kann das Buch wirklich wärmstens empfehlen.

Better understanding of the constructs of romantic love and what healthy love requires to succeed.

This is the most important book on relationships I have ever read. Every chapter gives the reader a wow moment, an insight into one's own drivers. It is also a very positive book and leaves you feeling full of hope and contentment , looking forward to whatever the future brings, having the self belief that you will not feel overwhelmed or if you do it is only temporary. This book needs to be used in secondary schools and definitely on the bookshelves of all adults. I can't praise it highly enough. Well done to the author!

This is a terrific book that explains what romantic love is, where it comes from and what is needed for it to last. Branden comes from the self-interest perspective on this, where he, I believe correctly, notes that romantic love is both self-interested and other-interested, and to put the emphasis on other-interested only in a self-sacrificial form is ultimately destructive of romantic love. This latter approach to romantic love is the mindset of the codependent, people pleaser who comes from a place of low self-esteem. Such a mindset often leads to resentment for efforts that go unrecognized. Romantic love starts and grows where both partners have a decent amount of self-esteem and can have a long-lasting tenure if both partners can accommodate growth and evolution in the other. The self-interest component comes into play because a person is seeking affirmation and validation and gets it through another person, who reflects back to them who they are.