5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life: Identifying and Dealing with Narcissists, Sociopaths, and Other High-Conflict Personalities Paperback – February 6, 2018

I love Bill Eddy’s books and really enjoyed reading this one. And I love the 90% rule offered.It is an easy read that explores how those disguised as awesome, charming, smart, popular, productive, successful, and talented may be extremely toxic and dangerous. It addresses how they miss detection, how they connect with certain-others, and how they positively present themselves. It describes how they later engage in efforts to destroy their targets of blame, and offers how to identify toxic personalities and how to protect yourself from them.I have found that most don’t seek out truths like these until they’ve experienced the toxic’s destruction, and only then to self-improve. Most want to understand their role in it, how it happened, how they misread the toxic’s motive and agendas, and learn how-to prevent it from happening again while protecting themselves and others.I have learned so very much reading Bill Eddy’s books and I frequently visit his website ‘ highconflictpersonalities.com ‘ and subscribe to his on-line articles. I absolutely recommend this and his other books, and his website articles, classes, and tools, etc. to all who enjoy public service, or who mediate, represent, or judge, or who are in a position of authority (supervisors, leaders, clergy, parents, etc.), and to those who simply enjoy helping others.The End.

Seriously. Just do yourself a favor and read this book. It will help you pick up on behaviors that can save you endless time and energy dealing with toxic people and people who could potentially ruin your life. It also has wonderful tips on how to deal with the different personality types in unavoidable situations. There’s probably no book I recommend more in my day to day life than this one.

I really like the practical format of this book, but I don’t think it’s possible to say that someone who had repeated bouts of bad luck with employment has automatically a HCP (high conflict personality). I think toxic working environments are more common than the good ones so asking around for proof of “problem personality” can be simply an exercise in confirmation bias. Sometimes you don’t know what environment you are walking into and the motivations behind your hire. In one of my jobs the plan was to pit me against a person they wanted to manage out. But things worked the other way around/ I left instead. Now my former colleague will happily say something negative about me, but if the person inquiring is the author then he may conclude I’m an HCP too!

I read another review that said people seek information about this topic after they have been burned. That is true for me and the results were catastrophic. Advice from the book is to not confront the difficult person but placate them because to confront them may feel good in the moment but in fact you have become targeted for bullying and destruction and things get so much, dangerously, worse. I find an entire roadmap in this book of what just happened to me and it is helpful after the fact to help make some sense of the devastation and loss. I only wish I had known sooner so this pain could have been avoided. This book is easy to read and gets to the point. My thanks to the author.

I wish I had read this book in my ‘20s, but it wasn’t written then. I was married to a narcissist and later to a high conflict person who used me as his target. We all have had experiences with people exhibiting malicious borderline personality disorders. Studies indicate that sociopathic personality disorders are increasing in the USA. Overpopulation, advertising and particularly social media are some factors for this, and the author points out some other factors.This book is written in a straightforward and well organized way. There are endless variations of personality disorders, since each individual is unique; however, the author’s outline is a helpful tool to observe warning signs so you can protect yourself. A knowledge of psychology is essential to survival.

This book was fabulous, absolutely magnificent. Not only did it demonstrate how to identify high conflict personalities amongst you, it gives you detailed information on how to deal with each type/subtype. Not everyone in the world is straight up and honest, there are people who are dramatic and live to watch people squirm. This excellent book covers all those who want to watch the world burn. Highly recommend, especially for work.

Although it had some good information, it was not worth $14 for the Kindle edition. It was a really short book.

The book describes with simple words different personality disorders and how they manifest and can umpact you. It helped me a lot to analyze and understand better both a personal and a professional difficult relationship. I would recommend highly the book to anyone that experiences difficult relationship both at home or in the workplace. It is a clear and eye opening read.