Dirty Laundry: Why Adults with ADHD Are So Ashamed and What We Can Do to Help Paperback – August 15, 2023

It just arrived today and I’m already on page 77. Had to make myself put it down to get my afternoon chores done.I will probably also be lending my copy out, buying copies for friends/loved ones, or at least recommending this to them!This book is so good. I hope the shift this book makes catches on everywhere: Stepping away from trying to shame and guilt people with ADHD into “acting more neurotypical,” to this refreshing tactic of encouraging self-acceptance and working WITH our brains with compassion, patience, and understanding to help us find healing, healthy coping strategies, and feel better in general. Positives which contribute to fewer issues with our often disruptive, or even problematic and embarrassing ADHD symptoms.More pluses for this book:So easy to read. It’s succinct; a whopping 144 pages of reasonably-sized text, written in easily accessible language, and it’s been liberally sprinkled with humor and compassion. Rich and Rox seem like amazing, loving humans who genuinely care for each other, as well as everyone they meet.This book feels like a hug from a supportive friend.

As an ADHDer, I don't get a lot of reading done. But by golly has this been the first book in a long time (since Chuck Palahniuk's Haunted) that I've not wanted to put down since picking it up. First day of ALL my 'things to do' where I sit on the toilet and couch just head down in a book! Talk about a hyper focus.I can't wait to be done with it so my neurotypical (possibly autistic) hubby can read it as well. Then, I will read this over and over and over.Since he can read something once and get it, while I enjoy rewatching/rereading things to be recaptured by the beauty.As I read from both perspectives, as that empath, I'm in tears! "WHY ARE THEY CRYING" iykyk (if you know you know).This is such a moving read. Not even as a social media follower, but as someone who has ADHD, late into marriage diagnosed, and yet has a husband who has stayed married to me for almost a couple decades.Being married as an ADHDer was so challenging in the beginning, then we found acceptance, but deep down I was still struggling all the time. Then I got dx, and still hadn't realized there were couples out there like us. I feel loneliness like a mofo.This is an amazing read, if you're the spouse of an ADHDer, if You Are the ADHDer, or even if you're trying to learn compassion for your ADHD child. If you can empathize or sympathize, you will understand that this book is a teaching tool to a person for anyone who has ADHD in their (people around you) life.Rox and Richard, you both are loved and understood completely! And we are all still learning about our relationship AND our own individual selves. Much love to the authors.This book is so great, there are no words for me to say how much I appreciate their book, Dirty Laundry!!!Do you know how many pairs of the same sunglasses and eyeglasses I've gone through??? Iykyk.5 stars for airing out your Dirty Laundry as a married couple.Keep on letting the world know there are more like us out there than understood. Truly, THANK YOU!This is a pic of how far I've gotten in the first evening of reading anything! And trust, I've made many attempts on many books... but nothing quite intriguing, heart felt, and relative like this!

I recently got diagnosed with ADHD and it has brought so much clarity to my struggles throughout my life. As nice as that is, it's done very little to help me navigate my obstacles. For instance, I loved reading as a kid because I could hyperfocus. But, as an adult I haven't been able to truly sit down and read for over a decade. I pre-ordered this book as soon as I saw the announcement because their videos have done so much to help me appreciate and manage my ADHD. I was having a particularly chaotic focus day when I first attempted to read this book. I was shocked to discover I was able to sit down and focus on reading for the first time in years! I don't know how they did it. They not only packed this book with a ton of insight, compassion, and helpful techniques, but they made it assessable to read for people who struggle to focus. Incredible. Even if you don't have ADHD, this book is amazing for illuminating what we struggle with and how you can support your ADHD loved one.

I have read countless books on ADHD since being diagnosed about 8 years ago. While this book is not the most “scientific”, it was the most profound and helpful for me emotionally. You won’t find typical advice in here (you know the advice all of us have tried and failed at again and again) - this book is more about connecting with and accepting yourself. There is practical advice in working WITH your ADHD and good advice for partners. The portion for partners is wonderfully geared towards reframing your mindset towards your ADHDer along with small shifts in the way you approach/help them.I found myself connecting immediately with Roxy’s stories, having been to the extreme ends of untreated ADHD myself. I felt like I wasn’t alone. Sometimes in the modern day of TikTok, ADHD can be presented as just quirky or cute. Rarely do people talk about what it’s like to be an addict, to get evicted, to ruin relationships, and all the true darkness that can be the result of undiagnosed ADHD. But Roxy does this with honesty and humor.The only sort of “negative” I would say is that the chapter on finances can be disheartening for those of us who do not have a partner that works in the banking industry or is good with finances. The chapter does give some good emotional support points, but it was the one chapter in which I could not connect with the idea of successfully conquering that area of my life.Otherwise this book is amazing and a must read for ADHDers and their partners or family. I also gifted it to my teenage daughter who has ADHD and is getting ready to graduate high school. I think it’s vital for her to understand what a good and healthy partnership looks like when it comes to ADHD.