The Menu: Life Without the Opposite Sex

This book is an essential read for anyone looking at the reality of modern life. Aaron does a great job running the numbers, breaking down the truth, and offering real options. Aaron Clarey knocks it out of the park again with another great book. He writes in a way that makes complicated topics understandable & even funny! Aaron will go to the very needed truth & be honest with us 'the audience' in a way few dare to touch. Must read for adults living in this modern world. P.S. Thank you again for all your hard work Aaron!

Almost 5 years ago, my husband passed away. Since I started to enter the dating market, I have found things have changed drastically! First, I thought it was me. But no, dating apps are essentially trash, and as a woman in her later years, I had to accept that the odds of finding a quality partner where not very good. However, I do have many years of life ahead of me, and I wondered “What will I do with myself?” As a woman, we have a biological need to have a partner, but I have to accept that part of my life is now over. ( I will add here as a side note, that my husband was a wonderful man, very intelligent, and a good provider. I consider myself lucky in the fact that I got more than most people will ever have.) The Menu gave me insight as to what I should do next. I was contemplating going to CDL school, and next week I will be on that path. I want to travel, make money and see what is out there. I also want to push myself out of my comfort zone. And that is what we got to do-push ourselves out into the world to find purpose, meaning and direction. I may never find another man to enjoy my life with. And you may never find the right woman to settle down with. But that’s okay! The Menu will give you useful information that you can apply to your life and to help you have a good life without a partner. Buy this book, it will help you!

As an older guy in my 60's, I can say I wish I had this when I was much younger. Reading and internalizing this book at 18 probably would've changed the course of my life. As with most men, it's not tragedy, bankruptcy, accidents, and jobs that suck that create pain points on your life line. It's relationships. Breakups. Divorce. Complicating one's life with unrealistic expectations of the opposite sex. This shows the reader that the void one feels doesn't necessarily need to be filled with another person. No one single woman can fulfill your needs and desires. That's a lot of work for someone. And that's a lot of expectations to be magically met. Read the book. Underline, highlight, take notes in the columns. Reflect on your notations the next time you pick it up and before you read the next chapter. Process each chapter before ingesting the next one. You will feel like sh*t for past mistakes. That will subside, when you realize you're not alone in the journey. You eventually will feel optimistic and have more faith in yourself. The concept of 'hope versus action' was the "face palm" moment. Keep action alive, not hope. Action gives you a reason to wake up and crush it today. Hope without action is like wanting big strong arms but never lifting weights. That ez-curl bar isn't gonna lift itself and you're not magically wake up one morning with biceps. That being said, get yourself a four-color pen. Color code your notes and underlining. Green for money issues. Red for red flags and warnings. Blue for emotional issues. And black for hard core truths. Don't forget one to four red stars to emphasize the statements that made you stop and think. That's how you'll get the best out of this book. Every parent needs to buy this for their sons. Just order it. Read one chapter per day and you'll have it done in a week. Gather a few friends and have a REAL book study group, not a virtual group. This is how you will best enjoy "The Menu". Hope this helps, my friendly acquaintances.

Its a menu. I'd say worth the bucks and a good read. For us international readers you can easily see the author is addressing subjects from an American viewpoint, other than that its easy to read and easy to relate to the knowledge shared in this little menu, and while the content probably are familiar for the younger generation, its worth to be repeated. For the 40-50+ audience out there(well parents to the 18-35 something) this menu will explain why the younger generation goes in their own directions and highlight some of their realities. I recommend this menu and will pass along my sample to a friend.

One of the hardest RP truths to swallow is that the world operates nothing like you were told. If you are one of the fortunate ones that has made it past the anger and disillusionment caused by this realization, what's next? This is where The Menu comes in. It provides you with some ideas and frameworks to begin rebuilding your mental models in a way that will allow you to get some enjoyment out of however much time you have left on this earth. This book shows you the importance of focusing on improving your own life, not just for your own benefit but for the benefit of those around you. The world doesn't need anymore men or women bitching on the internet about how the opposite sex doesn't operate the way that they think they should. It does however, need more people who have come to terms with the harsh realities of the modern sexual market place and made their peace with it. The irony is that by focusing on your own mental peace and financial well-being you will be at your most desirable to the opposite sex and, should you choose to pursue love, you will do so from a stable and secure place.

No doubt that Aaron does it right by the numbers. But this short rant is redundant. Also, the suggestions are more how to be like the author than how to be your best self. If one were to distill the wisdom of Clarey, which is valuable beyond question, you'd need about four pages. Still, for the youngins out there, listen to the clarion call of Clarey, cause you'll be spared much pain and expense.

The book was good. It was kinda slow. But the book is teaching the gospel of being a man in todays world. Men have got to get away from trying to please women every second of the day when they don’t even appreciate it. We have to get back to being men and tribal.

I’ve read a myriad of Aaron’s books. I think The Menu stands out because it’s gives you the harsh truth in a digestible way and you can act on it immediately. The Menu picks up where the Book of Numbers left off: the gut wrenching reality (backed by statistics) that most of us won’t have a significant other in our life. Clarey expands on that notion to hit home the failed boomer propaganda we were fed for decades. The main reason is pure economics. Not all hope is lost as Clarey offers a wide menu of options of options to fill the purpose/hope vacuum. The need to maintain good health, hobbies, friends, travel and an occasional hook up gives you purpose while avoiding the snare trap of a life wrecking marriage. The Menu is an easy read with a lot of advice that is very actionable—regardless of your socio-economic status. If you’re “black pilled” this book is well worth your time and money.