The 5 Apology Languages: The Secret to Healthy Relationships

It is a good book. Well written, with good examples and illustrations.

When you realize how human we all are and how many mistakes we make on the path to perfection you can see why learning to forgive is a huge social skill for maintaining relationships that are worthwhile! Learning to apologize is a whole other level in this book and you will benefit greatly from learning to be that humble. I remember one time I wrote an apology email and that helped start up a friendship again. I have also printed out real apology letters and sent them to people. That saved relationships with relatives too. Mostly I'd say I apologize for being unforgiving at the start. Then I seem to come around to that idea later and rebuild the failing relationship. I would say that when you offer forgiveness it is mostly for your benefit but can also take the weight off someone else's shoulders. I don't believe the author is correct in saying you don't need to forgive unless someone apologizes. Jesus stated to forgive time and time again. I can promise you I've forgiven people who have never apologized to me and it has benefited me greatly and freed me from worry and stress. To not forgive someone is almost unbearable after a while because your conscience will hassle you over and over again until you give in. Jesus definitely stated that God would not forgive you if you do not forgive others. So it is like one of the most serious things ever! So yes, this book is essential reading for anyone who has relationships that they value greatly. So many people are stuck in cycles of unforgiveness and some are unwilling to ask for forgiveness too. Really the whole process is freeing for everyone involved and shows there is hope even in the worst of situations. Perhaps the highlight of this book is the part about forgiving yourself. How we all need to hear that!!!! I think sometimes we learn our greatest lessons when we forgive or ask for forgiveness! I am so grateful to authors for writing books like this that genuinely assist people to live a much more fulfilling life! I am happy I've been able to say I'm sorry and have forgiven those who have wronged me in the past. You will never regret reading this book. In fact it could change your whole life!!!! The irony is that while reading this book I had to forgive someone for what they did to me the day I read this book. In fact I had the time to read this book because of what they did. :) ~The Rebecca Review

Really insightful; this book masterfully combines professional expertise, real-life examples, and explanations after each example. What went wrong, how could it be made right, and what methods it took to get there, are some of the recurrent questions answered throughout the book. More certainly than not, you will find yourself reflected in at least one of these situations. At least once, you may reach a moment of self realisation as you read the book. I will attach a few pictures for reference. As markers, I use wax Bible markers bought off amazon, as they don't bleed through to the other page. And yes, we haven't invested enough in emotional intelligence, we do know too little about it, and this book helps fill in that gap. Enjoy.

A good analogy on the skills of communicating with family and friends without the current overwhelming diatribe of everyone being a victim. The book places responsibility on each person to act in deference to self in order serve , help and encourage others yet leaving self wholesome, at peace and matured . The high calling of serving others cannot be compared to the deprecating focus on self which is never satisfied and eventually consumes self, feeding anxiety frustration and anger

Got it for my mum She loved it