[(Cockfidence)] [Author: Celeste Hirschman] published on (January, 2011) Paperback – 14 Jan. 2011

I was fascinated with this book because there are not many bookson sexual presence, yet there so many on picking up women.I came across this material from a blog on "Brent Smith Lifestyle"(a dating and life style coach) where the two authors shared ideasand thoughts on the modern man; confused with so many differentopinions on modern women.

Interesting and informative just a little crude perhaps

I came home late but I was excited about this book so I thought I would “glance through it” while I got ready for bed, so of course, two hours later, I had read almost the whole book and I finally made myself go to sleep! (I woke up the next morning and devoured the rest of the book.)Cockfidence is so well-written and thoughtful. It avoids the pitfalls I frequently encounter when reading self-help in this realm for men (objectification on one side of the spectrum and overly-esoteric on the other.) This book is practical and practicable, and it treats all of the humans involved as whole, full people with their own interiority and motivation and desire.AND it is incredibly sexy. Like, truly sexy and connecting the reader to his own, honest, sincere sexiness. And I’m not just talking about “acceptable” “non-threatening” sexiness or about taming or domesticating wild sexiness. It acknowledges the power of true passion and dominance, in addition to romance— and the power of consciously choosing and offering yourself to a partner.The biggest thing that sets Cockfidence apart from other books in this genre is that it is not telling you to be someone else. It is saying that the person you are right now has this in you. And it shows you how to connect, in real time, in your body with this power, how to experiment with it, communicate with others, hold space, be an extraordinary lover. It is broken up into clear sections with different qualities that build upon one another, with clear, do-able exercises to practice.This book is aimed at cis straight men who are interested in dating cis women, and the writing reflects that. That being said, I didn’t feel put off as a trans queer non-binary man, even though I’m not the target demographic. (In fact, it helped me understand some things about social norms that hadn’t made sense to me previously, so trans folx who are looking for insight into cis culture will also find it in these pages— just a nice bonus!)Highly highly recommend this book— it was really healing and exciting to read

I found the title, cover and jacket-blurb offputting, but the actual content I liked and found very helpful. It's a little strange to be tutored on being a man, in a book written by two women, but.. tbh, they really know what they're talking about. It's quite a practical book, some frank advice that is easy to understand (about the energy you project, confidence, physical stuff) with some exercises too; I really enjoyed "how to throw a woman against a wall", for example.I enjoyed it, found it genuinely useful, enlightening, and applicable. There's not much fluff in there.It's the price of a small round of drinks, a small self-investment; I definitely recommend this book.

Good philosophy for thought. The breathing exercises discussed herein were worth the price of the book as they proved very helpful. Was able to keep notes from many chapters

Book Report: CockfidenceSeveral months ago, a close friend visited a urologist about some “Men’s issues.” It was beyond the doctor’s scope of practice, so he recommended a sexologist to sort through some issues for this friend. It sounded logical at the time, but my friend lives in a rural part of the country. A quick Google search revealed the closest one was almost four hours away. So my friend had a conundrum: How do you take this doctor’s advice seriously? So in respect for my buddy, definitely not me, because I don’t need that stuff, I did another Google search for his sake and found a book with “Cock” in the name of a book; I was intrigued. I explored it a little and decided this would be the best way to help my friend. It seemed legit, maybe just the thing for me- errr, him- to get over some hang ups.My friend was thankful for the book.Written by two obvious liberals from San Francisco, the back cover declares: “This book will show you how to find your personal power and have mind-blowing sex and passionate connections with women.” Both women specialize in this kind of therapy and run a blog covering sexual therapy issues. In lieu of actual therapy, this book would have to do.It is full of good advice and practices, many of which my friend said he already knew, but it was still good to have it reinforced. Cockfidence tells a man how to be a great lover from the perspective of the woman, from the monogamous married man to the philandering single. What does she want? What keeps her interested? They make plenty of pitches for men’s masculinity. In fact, it comes across as something women deeply desire. I’m not talking a mindless brute, but simply a strong, musk-scented, caring man.As a part of that, they offer sexual fantasies, or, favorite sexual movies. Most men think of a porn scene, while most women think of romantic movies. They tell how essentially both movies are the same. There are a couple hilarious examples in the book.They offer three types of sexual experiences, playing off of the sexual movies: Romantic, passionate, and dominant. The romantic is easy: Caresses, long kisses, holding each other tight. The passionate gets wild- up against the wall, hanging from the chandelier, and simply going at each other. Then the dominant movie. Some people may lose their minds at this. It’s probably not what you think. It is the man being in charge, giving commands to the woman, not suggestions or requests. He’s taking what he wants. They make the point that this is what many women want too, whether they say it or not. Once you get here in the book, you should realize this. This isn’t bondage, but sex that is satisfying for both parties. You get here and you realize it’s supposed to be exciting and fulfilling for both parties. I took it as a way of clearing up the confusion modern feminism has caused in this area.This was a strange read for me. I’ve never really sat down to read about sex and how to be better at sex. Reading it and then writing this review, I’ve simply decided to just jump in.It dispelled some stereotypes or myths, introduced a couple new ideas (Sexual movies are somewhat of a eureka moment) and then it reinforced a few things I already knew, encouraging me where I was timid before. It was strange in a sense that two San Francisco authors, one a self-proclaimed bisexual, gave a good deal of encouragement to the masculine male. They don’t understand masculinity as much as they allude to, but they do a much better job than I gave them credit for initially. In a world where feminists have dreamt a world full of self-impregnating women and vagina cantatas, it’s refreshing that not all feminists are batshit crazy slut-shaming whores.This book does require practice. There are quite a few things in there that I took as solid nuggets but I’ve since forgotten. My wife is reading it now and when she’s done, I’m going to have to use it for reference. I mean, my friend’s wife is reading it and when she’s done- ah damn it. Awkward. Not like that. This is what my friend said, I swear.

I am a 46 year old recently divorced man trying to figure out this new world. It's a great read for any man who wants to be a spectacular lover! Some very simple techniques explained in a practical straight forward manner. Thank you for letting us guys in on the inner workings of female sexuality! We need all the help we can get! Lol!