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One of the most important books I have ever read
I feel this is one of the most important books I have ever read in my life. This book shows the importance of deeply accepting and embracing yourself, just the way you are--emotional pain and all. I spent well over a decade in deep depression, feeling dead and numb inside. Yet I deeply desired to find the cause of my brokenness and find healing. I took the mystical path, and spent years meditating and doing other complimentary spiritual practices. I studied and practiced teachings that explain how important it is to not resist your pain; to allow it to be, and experience it deeply. However, I was not able to do it. When other teachings said to be present with my pain, I took that to mean I should simply be there with it and tolerate it. But that is not enough. The wounded places in yourself are not looking to be merely tolerated. They are looking for love.This book takes a deep, loving approach. In it we find that we need not search for healing, because by believing we need healing, we continue to tell ourselves that something is wrong with us the way we are. This only causes more pain and deepens the wounds. What we are really searching for is wholeness. We give not only our full attention to the pain within us: we give our hearts to the pain. Emotional and psychological pain is not some inanimate thing that we should get rid of. The pain within us is wounded aspects of ourselves that are crying out for love and attention. And so we must give that loving attention to ourselves. By giving loving attention to the broken aspects of ourselves, instead of suppressing the pain, we introduce and integrate them back into our conscious selves, thereby becoming whole. We must always do this when we are in pain, no matter how long it takes or how many times we must allow and embrace inner turmoil. As the author puts it, most humans are fair-weather friends to themselves. They are open to themselves and all their feelings completely when things seem to be going well, and when they feel good. But when they feel bad, they are resistant to those feelings and always avoiding themselves, via things like addictions, etc. So we are learning to no longer be fair-weather friends to ourselves, but to be completely open and accepting of ourselves unconditionally. With this as our foundation we can successfully do the completion process.The completion process is an active imagination process that facilitates going deeper into the places in ourselves that have experienced trauma, and providing validation and comfort to your wounded inner child. In this process you meet your needs in any way that is necessary, and encounter profound emotional relief. The process gives opportunities for suppressed memories to arise and be dealt with as well. When encountering old traumas within, you can give the opportunity for old memories to come up if needed, and then work with them further. If no memories come up, you can simply validate the experience you are having and practice what the author calls "emotional vipassana." She explains that these initial steps of the process--validation and emotional vipassana--alone are enough to experience reintegration. I personally find myself not being flooded with a lot of memories when I do this practice, but these basic methods still stand when dealing with trauma and pain. I can validate my experience, give broken parts of me an opportunity to fully express themselves and be fully experienced and felt. I can be there unconditionally for these feelings, and in that way meet my own needs. This is the heart of the practice, and this is what each step of it is about.The process is eighteen steps long, which may seem intimidating. However, as you absorb and become familiar with the steps, you will see that they really do flow together naturally. So although the author has broken it down into these eighteen steps, it is actually seamless and simple.The book explains in depth how the subconscious works, and how life events and other occurrences act as triggers for suppressed pain. It explains how we can come fully into an intimate relationship with ourselves and prepares us to go deeply into our inner world. And when we think we have gone deep, the book explains how to go deeper still! We come out feeling whole, more alive, more compassionate and loving toward others, more excited about life, and most importantly, more loving and compassionate toward ourselves.The reading of this book has effectively ended the years of fear I carried--fear of myself. I spent years constantly suppressing and running from the pain within me, and it only grew worse and worse. This book gave me the gift of reconciliation. I am no longer afraid of my feelings; no longer afraid of myself. I feel more and more whole every daily. I am so thankful!I have noticed that there is a lot of criticism about the author that goes on in the spiritual community. But whatever has gone on in her personal life is none of my business.The information in this book is truly liberating. Every word rings true, and clearly flows from a place of deep spiritual insight. It is about self-empowerment! It is about self love, and true healing, which is wholeness! This book is amazing. Accept yourself deeply, just the way you are. Then do an act of self-love, and read this book!
E**N
On about week 3
The book was very easy to read and understand. I was a little concerned with being able to recall the old memories (who can remember stuff from when they were 2?). However, I meditate every day and have been doing hypnosis for years so I trusted my subconscious that it will reveal things to me. And it sure has. I've been keeping a written record of all my sessions. 6 so far.I would recommend reading the book all the way through and highlighting things. I used kindle. Then go back and re-read the chapters that outlines each step and take notes on paper. I'm re-reading this for the 3rd time. I keep my notes with me and usually have to open my eyes to check the next step. The steps come really fast once you get into it. What has taken the longest for me is the memory to surface then sitting with the emotion after that to re-experience. But take your time, as Teal says.Trust yourself and trust the visions you get. Once you get going its like the subconscious just takes over. Before I even get to the step of seeing what the child needs it lets me know.My first session I was a baby of 6 months old and one of my mom's man friends scared me. You know how people will get all up in a baby's face?The most intense session I did after I was triggered by my teenager son. He was giving a lot of attitude because he was upset about something. So I let him have his space but he still hurt my feelings so after I left his room I went to the kitchen and started crying. It was late but I decided it was a great time for the Completion Process. I went to my mediation room. At first I was taken to a Halloween house, something you'd see on a cartoon. Then into the ground to something dead. The visual faded so I sat with the emotions more. Then I was 3 on my mom's lap at a table. She put me down and went upstairs. I knew this wasn't the first time I experienced this. So I said, take me to the first time I felt this. I was then a couple months old and my mom was upset about something so she put me down so she could run to the bedroom and cry. I felt abandoned and not loved. I wasn't good enough, I was scared and angry but mostly I felt abandoned . I laid on the apartment carpet crying. After a while I had a green and yellow aspect come merge with me and my older self was holding me, validating me. The older self gave my young mother a baby carrier that she is never able to remove so the baby will always be with her. She chose to take her mom and brother in their apartment to the safe haven to stay forever. During this session I felt VERY disconnected from my body. My torso felt very long like I was 10 feet tall and my legs were 10 feet away from me. In the book she mentioned this is called lilliputain hallucinations.Since I've been doing this I feel like I'm more sensitive to energy. Like I can feel other people's emotions as energy. I don't really know how to explain this but I'm interested in seeing what else happens. I usually get very tired after a session and need a nap or to just lay down for 30 minutes.I know I've only just tap the iceberg on this. I had a emotion that wasn't quit ready to surface yet so I just let it be. The problem I have is when I get triggered I can't always sit for 40 minutes at a time. The longest session was 40 minutes the shortest was around 12 minutes.
A**N
Great
The first 20 pages I was already recognizing the issues within myself
C**A
excelente ayuda
Este libro aporta muchísimo y hasta ahora me ha ayudado a solucionar varios problemas que he tenido con este método, lleno de sabiduría.
C**.
Two major trauma memories reintegrated already
I'm about halfway through the book and am driven to write a review already as I am astounded at the level of peace and acceptance I've arrived at from following this process.I had two major traumas in my childhood that have formed the rest of my life (there are others but these two were the biggies), and now at 45, I finally feel completely accepting of these memories. More than that, I feel a deep and powerful love towards my young self who directly experienced these things. I was able to go back and BE THERE for that terrified child and I cannot quite put into words the massive gratitude I feel towards the author for this amazing gift.What I've read so far is intelligent, well written, well delivered, passionate and so easy to comprehend.I never write reviews after getting trolled by another Amazon reviewer many years ago, but I have to come out of my hiding place to write this one!What a powerful system and what a profound effect!! Thanks Teal Swan!
K**Z
Had the opposite effect
Sadly I have not found this book to be of use. My experience with memory regression is we shouldn't alter a memory to a positive one just because we are pained by it, as it causes deeper issue further on, ones that will come back to the surface againx and sometimes that absolutely means in a different, sometimes unrecognizable form.I tried out the methods and honestly, it made me feel worst about myself. Reliving painful memories inorganically in attempts to manipulate and change them tends to create more inner conflict then it resolves in my experience.I also joined the fb forums which confirmed this as many who use it are experiencing deep fractures in their conciousness and ive observed that there use of this approach tends to also create more instability within the emotional realms, rather then soothing it down. There seems to be more success from when one ceases doing it if I'm honest.Like the mind goes, finally, they're no longer trying to 'fix me' and then it relaxes and recalibrate itself organically.After all it's almost impossible to feel joy when you're obsessed with the shadows.I think it's nice more then anything to know we arent alone when we suffer.Teal undeniably has an incredible mind, however her spiritual ego creates blindspots that hides the damage that can be done from using a one size fits all approach which is ironic as she boasts herself that all spiritual teachers should be taken with a pinch of salt and then in the same breath plugs her approach as the best.I would recommend speaking to a well trained psychologist that you highly trust before undertaking any concepts from this book, as of course it does depend at what stage we are personally at on our journey and I think it would be okay for people who are really stable within themselves. I would for that reason like to see a caution message added to the book, but caution messages dont exactly sell books.
A**V
Eye opening, a good book for non-spiritual people to have a good look into themselves.
I know Teal Swan is really hated by a lot of other spiritual folks claiming all sorts of plagiarism things, but I have to say, I really liked the no bullshit style and lets face it, most of us are not going to india and paying 6 grand to some guru to have a similar thing attempted. Knowledge should be shared, and well if she has condensed it into a useful book, then that's good. I seen a lot of youtube stuff that is vile coming form 'spiritual' people, but never heard her do a hate speech, makes you wonder who's authentic and who's not. For someone like me who is not spiritual, I really connected with it and actually contacted one of the TCP people and done the thing over skype. I don't think this is a self help book, its more of a primmer to something else, and that not a bad thing. Yeah, she makes money out of touring or whatever, but like I don't see anything negative in being an entrepreneur, but her critics really are pissed off at how successful she is, but like they probably could learn something, but a bunch of these 'enlightened' folks seems to be super pissed. Anyway thats my brief rant, if it's scfi, Catholicism, or Westworld, you can believe whatever you want, you're not wrong.
T**I
Truly outstanding.
I almost never write reviews but had to with this: Teal's techniques are best in class.Effective, comprehensive, safe, easy to understand, and simple to action.It's hard work, but it works. It delivers immediate, unmistakeable, positive results.Teal has found a new way of dealing with trauma of all kinds. She's found the flaws in current modalities, and fixed them.Following this process, I've resolved issues that 25 years of sincere dedication to other methods never got anywhere near.There is zero requirement to buy in to any belief system, and no need to trust in anything except your own feelings.It's a down-to-earth, no judgement process.Don't hesitate.
A**A
It delivers way more than it promises!
I gave myself time to practice the Completion Process several times before writing a review. It is life changing to say the least. In fact, only the concept of validating and embracing the unpleasant emotions of myself and others was a game changer to start off with.With regards to the process itself, every single time I found myself in GREAT surprise by what memories and traumas I delved into. Moreover, over time I have learned that giving as much time needed to each step (once the whole process lasted 3 hours) the more insightful and "healing" it is.Long story short- if there is one self-help book I would recommend to everyone (I have read many!) it would be this one. It is practical, you gain an insane amount of self-awareness, growth and confidence.
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