It's A Guy Thing: A Owner's Manual for Women

This book is the perfect guide for women and men who are open to become a perfect lover ✨️ ❤️

A very interesting perspective on men. Now I keep asking myself: Do you get mad at the wolf for eating the sheep? Still, there are certain male (and female) behaviors that author David Deida excuses--saying that the individual is acting according to their male (or female) energy--which I feel are not excusable. It's just not OK for a man to go on and on explaining something to me (my 19yo daughter calls this "man-spraining") that I am more expert at than he is, just because he is expressing his male energy. He should know better. Likewise, I don't think it's OK for women to say they love you one moment and that they can't stand you the next because that's how feminine energy works, and to interfere with it would "depolarize" us and screw up the male-female sexual connection. But I get it: You have to let the man/woman freely express their masculine/feminine essence if you want a relationship to hold its sexual charge, and for Deida's generation these expressions are what's natural. Not so for my kids' generation, thank goodness.

David Deida is a modern day genius when it comes to intimacy, men, women and authentic connection. I've read nearly all his work and I am certain that the quality of my life and my relationships as well as self-understanding are drastically improved. I gift this book and it's partner (The way of the Superior Man) to every new couple, friends, etc. If I had it my way, I'd make both of these books required reading for any man or woman who wish for or are in relationship. Total game changer! I really can't celebrate Deida enough!!!!!

As a couples counselor, Deida's unique emphasis on sexual polarity, on understanding the different ways women and men, communicate, relate and are, and the different ways in which masculine and feminine energies manifest and interact, explains why his voice and books are a before-and-after for many women, tired of the usual bluff they find in relationship and dating books. It's a Guy Thing is still relevant and useful for women, even though it was first published in 199, just because of this.This is a Q&A sort of book on all things men/the masculine. Most of the questions are something that most women have asked themselves, or are still asking themselves, about the men in their life. If you have read something else by Deida, you will find here what you can find in other of his books, but with a few more practical tips on precise queries. If you haven't read any of Deida's books, you will still be surprised by his bold, unique and challenging voice. Yet, I would recommend you to read Intimate Communion first, to best understand what Deida means by sexual polarity and Deida's tantric approach to relationships.GREATDeida makes great comments and gives great advice throughout the book, but one of the statements that I liked the most was this: "This inner child responds when our buttons, our childhood wounds, get pushed. Our feminine button gets pushed when we feel unloved; our masculine button gets pushed when we feel constrained and not free to do what we want. In response to feeling unloved or constrained, we act like little children. “If you don’t give me the love (or freedom) that I want, then I’m going to collapse or close down or leave you.” No man is capable of always giving you the love that you want. When your inner child doesn’t get its way it will want to run away, collapse or kick back. Intimacy, like parenthood, is a practice that requires giving love to your partner even while he is pushing your buttons or kicking your shins. Love begets love. Punishment and withdrawal without love do not provide the basis for trust and real growth in intimacy". (loc. 2333).TO IMPROVEThe book reads at times as a transcription of a real Q&A due to the constant repetition of the same statement within a given question, which is something that easily happens while giving a talk, but something inexcusable in a book in which an editor has worked on. The book would have benefited of a bit of verbal weeding.NOT NEWHaving John Gray's Men are from Mars and Women from Venus among my favourite books on relationships, I found that many of the things that Deida says in this book were basically a repetition of what Dr Gray had written in 1992 (Deida's book was written in 1995).MISSINGDeida's analysis would have benefited from Gary Chapman's points in The Five Languages of Love (1995). One of the most important things you can do to re-energise your relationship is learning to recognise the way your partner gives love and wants love to be given to him/her. The 'languages of love' aren't based on polarity, doing-receiving-giving kinda stuff, but on the way individual personalities (not gender or sexual energies) feel loved and express their love.DANGEROUSDeida says, "Very frequently in abusive relationships, for instance, one partner will have difficulty leaving even though it’s in her best interest. She has become addicted to the relationship". (loc. 1990)I think that this comment should be amended or eliminated. People working with domestic violence victims will tell you that addiction is not what keeps most women attached to the abuser. Moreover, the statement, unintentionally I believe, puts somewhat the blame on the victim.

If you're with the fantastic guy who doesn't talk tons anymore and you adore but don't totally know why, this book's for you. It goes way beyond some of Deida's youtube videos. I happen to like his earlier lectures and work more. My personal sense of him is that most of his work for the last 10 years has been in reaction to criticism. His foundational works on masculine and feminine energy are unparallelled. The information in here and in Deida's early videos has helped me understand my man and my girlfriends' guys better, have some fantastic conversations with guy friends who came to me for love advice, and even talk to my dad a bit about the beautiful arch of his life.In addition, I think it's a great book to understand your own masculine side and what works best for it. I have job that needs a lot of masculine work: competition, email, organizing, negotiating. I've found that I understand more from Deida's work how to shift between my feminine and masculine energies by giving each what it needs.

Even though I am used to David Deida's More spritual style of writing, I really enjoyed the way it was put together. It's simple to read and full of useful information. My way of seeing men changed so much thanks to this book. Now I help my clients do the same.

There were things in here that were useful. I think a lot of my issue with ur was everything being your man. It was just weird to me.Overall, though, the concept of masculine and feminine energies makes a lot of sense. It is important to realise that duality exists so it can be balanced. I think a lot of misunderstandings are a result of an imbalance in these energies.

Brilliant book

En un formato de preguntas básicas y divertidas que te ayudan con cualquier relación masculina que tengas, esposo, hijos, amigos, hermano, jefe, etc

My husband read another of David's books and suggested this one to me. I got lots from it and feel that I better understand my man and myself because of it. I can see areas in our relationship where I've created unnecessary conflict and I am starting to see what I can do and think to offer love instead. This book is perfect for the woman who is ready to change herself first, to experience even more love and ecstasy in her life.

This book gives amazing insight to the masculine and feminine of both men and women. Calms your mind and helps you to feel at peace with yourself and your feelings

Great book, helped me understand some things, but practical advise is missing