My Secret Bully Hardcover – April 1, 2005

I wish we didn't have to buy this for my daughter, but we did. Her situation was also physical. Her "best friend" would react negatively and sometimes physically when she didn't get her way. I didn't realize how bad it was until she came home with one of the worst black eyes I've ever seen. My heart literally broke into a million pieces when my 7 year old broke down in tears because she was worried her "friend" wouldn't be her friend anymore if she got her in trouble. She was also worried that all the kids at school would hate her if her "friend" got in trouble.This book was recommended to me by a friend of mine and I really think it helped, even though the situation was different. The last 2 months my daughter has built new and healthy relationships with children who don't try to control her.

I just read this with my third grade daughter and the examples in the book are great. We've talked a bunch over the last few years about mean behavior and how to respond. Reading this was one of the first times that it felt like we were both understanding these situations the same way. My daughter was giving me examples of things that had happened on the playground that were similar to the book. Overall, this book is a a great conversation starter and I'd highly recommend it. My only warning is that all the examples in the book are girls so I don't know if a boy would relate as well.

Important content, good conversation starter on how to recognize manipulation by who kids call friends. My girls liked it and I liked the resources and questions in the back

Since a similar situation is happening to my child in the book, it helped open up the conversation about bullying. Girls are so mean to each other starting at a young age.

I read this with my 10 year old, who had been bullied in the past and is fearful that it will happen again, now that we are returning back to school. Her words to me after reading was, “so this happens to other children too”, “nothing is wrong with ME”, “I will have to learn to stand up for myself” and “I’m glad I have you mommy, to talk to”. These words not only made me glad, more importantly, I wanted her to know that it is not the end, that there is always hope and that I will always listen and will always protect her.

The book is short with pictures. Our daughter read it out-loud to us and we discussed the book and bullying. We're happy with the story, the message and the chance to relate to our child. Arrived on time from seller - used and in the stated condition. Good job everybody!

Perfect book for kids in elementary schools to learn about relational aggression. I read it to my daughter once but caught her reading it alone several times. She is heading into second grade and I know these behaviors will pop up more and more. I wanted her to understand them so she does not blame herself.

This book came in the mail last night. I read it before giving it to my 8-year-old daughter to read. She read it 3 times - I'm not kidding. She LOVED it. I asked her why, and she said because it helped her think of how some people she calls "friends" are treating her, how to respond to them and stick up for herself, that she shouldn't keep everything inside of her and should tell someone, and that maybe some people really aren't her friends like she thought they were. I've talked to her about how to deal with her "friends" until I was blue in the face, but this book really reached her. Thank you! She has asked for more "bully" books, so I'm on the search for more great books like this one.