The Evolution of Desire
W**N
Hands down one of my top 5 favorite books!
Most definitely a "decoding the matrix" book. A real gem. Once you read the material, think about your past experiences, observe other relationships, and do some testing (don't trust, verify!) there's no turning back . You can't unread this material. This book doesn't get crazy scientific so its a great read. Its akin to describing how a program works rather than going deep into code and getting too technical to the point of putting the reader to sleep.I believe this subject is still debated among scientists, but its safe for me to accept the religious/Disney/Hollywood portrayal of romance, sex, and marriage is... a lie. You have to wonder why the divorce rate is 50%+, most marriages are miserable, marriages kill libido, many cheat, and so forth. Your dreams might be crushed reading this book so avoid it if you want to stay in Wonderland.The author provides many observations and comparisons of human behavior (among many cultures) to the animal kingdom. There are interesting mating patterns that can be found (even in insects!). The most interesting topic I remember is the Coolidge Effect where males tire and withdraw from having sex with the same female partner. The Coolidge Effect has been tested many times on mammals and the same pattern can be observed (very predictable). However, when a new partner is introduced the male will have sex like its the Olympics.A great book for both men and women to explore human nature.
M**R
Very informative
This book is basically a straight forward account of statistics and facts about what affects desire, attraction, mating possibilities and the lasting of relationships. What attracts a person of the opposite sex? How long do relationships last? What causes problems in relationships? What are mating and courtship trends around the world? I found it very informative. And it certainly exposed how naive I was about relationships.
J**Y
Nothing more than a collection of surveys on sexual strategy.
I imagine the authors went on google scholar and typed “What do women want” and “what do men want” and then wrote a book.In fact, those searches are two of the chapters in this book. This book has ZERO emotion. It’s a collection of studies where they interviewed thousands of people and asked them questions like, “Rank these attributes in a mate”MoneySocial statusEtc etcThe author clearly has no BS detector.Is this a legit way to find out what is really going on here? I think NOT! If you actually want your questions answered, look elsewhere. If you want to play logic games with the author, buy away!
D**E
Interesting
Had to buy this for a class. Interesting read, Buss discusses things in everyday language while keeping you engrossed in the story. I learned some interesting things about mating and sexuality. The one drawback is that there were a couple chapters I felt were too long and a bit boring. Overall, a good read.
J**M
The e-book version has disconnected pages
A very interesting book.I want to let the publisher know that e-book version has many disconnected pages, making it hard to read.
B**.
Interesting book.
Wouldn't call this a "good" book but definitely an interesting book that makes you think and chew on some information a little.
L**O
Very Interesting
Great book about human behaviour
P**C
Very good book
Explains good patterns of dating and mating strategies. Well worth the read.
C**S
Extremely insightful book but some chapters are repetitive
A formidable effort to map human mating strategies to our evolutionary past, packed with insights and valuable references. The book is very well organised and covers a lot of ground which unfortunately results to a feeling that some of the content (deservedly so) is repetitive. The main premise of the book is well communicated and the patient reader is handsomely rewarded.
H**N
Everyone should read this
An excellent book explaining from an evolutionary perspective courtship and mating strategies, I bow my head in shame that I’ve behaved so predictably in life and I fully recommend you read this book in your late teens to prepare you for future relationships .
D**A
Definitely worth your time
Best book ever. Definitely worth your time. Explains evolutionary basis for a lot of our behaviours. Doesn’t seem biased as it shows how some theories don’t work; and bases statements on research from numerous countries and cultures
N**2
Completely Comprehensive book on sex through evolution
This book is a must read. It gives a comprehensive understanding of all aspects of mating. So many things about your life will make sense after reading this book. Some of your relationships & behaviours over the course of your life will be explained in this book by the sexual adaptation mechanisms we have all grown through evolution
I**M
Very interesting book
Great explanation of gender differences in the mating game. Interesting to read.And lots of data to back it up. Good book
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