Jo GreenThe Trans Partner Handbook
T**E
Simplistic and judgmental
This book is thin and just provides surface level information. You could read 3 Buzzfeed listicles about trans lives and come away with the same amount of information that this book offers. It doesn't offer a great deal of support for the trans person's partner or how to cope. It's actually very judgmental in that regard. For example, in the chapter purporting to address "Grief," the author writes, "I don't understand the grief part." She then goes into a diatribe about how she believes partners should feel.
A**S
Not a great resource
I was hoping for information and support on the trans partners process, but it is almost entirely about your trans partner. There is a little new information (for me at least), but the majority of the topics are common knowledge. I think that information on interacting and understanding your transgender significant other's feelings during transition is extremely valuable, but it's hurtful that the only topic about a experience in a book for trans partners is "grief" and the author is dismissive and states trans partners shouldn't feel it.Additionally, I found part of the book sexist, because the author states how trans people experience social dismorphia, and how having your partner do a chore that doesn't align with traditional gender can trigger them. The example they used is how housework and dishes are "feminine" chores, which I personally find offensive.Bottom line is there's some good information, but not much. It can be helpful for someone who knows nothing about transgenderism. However, even as someone who is excited for my partners transition, I was hoping to find support for myself. But the book doesn't empathize with a trans partners experience, it dictates how you should feel in the very few times we are mentioned. I would imagine there's better resources
K**.
Relationship-saving material in this book! Says everything I can’t articulate on my own
Can’t explain how helpful this book has been for us. I highly recommend it to anyone who has recently come out (to themselves or anyone else) and to family members & partners of trans folks, who really want to learn what is like for us, especially in the very beginning. My partner has realized many mistakes he made, before finishing this book, and he says it’s been one of the most valuable tools for us (I agree). We’ve recommended it to so many of our friends who are trans and/or have trans partners :)
A**R
great resource
I got this for my partner, she said it was so good to hear the perspective from others. Said that the stories were good and relevant to our situation so it helped her not feel isolated.
J**N
Great support for partners
This book is so helpful! There are a lot of resources for parents of trans kids and how to be a good ally but really nothing of this kind. The author incorporates the stories of other people who are significant others of trans individuals which personalizes it and makes it more relatable. It validates a lot of thoughts, feelings, and emotions a partner may be experiencing. Of note: the author is from the UK so some of the information and experiences (such as health insurance or identification) are not exactly what one could expect in the US, but I didn't personally get the book for those things.
P**N
Helps to not feel alone.
This is well written, albeit a little thin. It's an easy and quick read though! It helped me feel a little less alien and alone.
L**R
Answers to questions for trans allies
I loved that it written in easy to understand thoughts. It is very inclusive and supportive. I received it earlier than I expected and once I started reading it I couldn't put it down.
S**E
Great information!
As a partner Of a trans woman I can say this book was a welcome find!!!! Great information!!
L**.
Mmmm?
This book came highly recommended to help partners cope with having a trans wife or husband. Mine found it more on how to help the trans partner than self coping.
M**S
Worth a read
The book was very helpful though tried too hard to be diverse ...therefore lacking in detail for my situation
S**X
Advice and Guidance. Seek what’s relevant to you.
You get what you buy: A handbook with practical advice and explanations. The extent to which it’s a useful guide depends on your individual situation and requirements.
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