Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life

“Boundaries” by Cloud and Townsend is one of the best books I have ever read. It has helped me better understand myself, my relationships, and the importance of setting healthy limits. The lessons are practical, eye-opening, and truly life-changing. This book gave me the tools to communicate more clearly, protect my peace, and grow in ways I didn’t realize I needed. I would recommend it to anyone who wants to improve their relationships and create healthier patterns in life.

Ideas laid out so cleanly, this book teaches well if you’re looking for a boost in your relationships and how to protect yourself against boundary-less people

This is really great book for anyone in a relationship. Henry Cloud has a great testomony of God's plan!!

This book changes your entire perspective. I have the audio, I bought this for others to read.

I can’t even get through the second chapter without throwing up. The book has an odor like it has been sitting inside a bag full of poopy diapers. I tried giving it a couple days to air out whatever stench the book was giving off but it’s still AWFUL. I’m going to have to send it back and get a replacement. Other than that, so far so good. I will update my review after I finish reading.

This book will change your life. I think we underestimate how boundaries can make a difference between a full life and one of difficulties. Reading this book one gets tools for what to do and clearly explained. It is quite a long read and takes time but it is worth it especially for people pleasers.

Probably one of the best books I’ve read in a long time. It does have a religious tone to it that I’m not a fan of, but the way it’s interlaced you don’t have to be a believer of religion to find relevance. It’s almost like it just links some things to religion for those who may find it easier to relate in that way.

DR HENRY CLOUD has been a guest speaker at my church on more than one occasion over the years. He’s an amazing speaker, and seems like a genuinely nice guy. When I heard about BOUNDARIES: WHEN TO SAY YES, WHEN TO SAY NO – TO TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR LIFE by DR HENRY CLOUD AND JOHN TOWNSEND, I decided to purchase it. I’m sorry to say I let it sit on my bookshelf for some time before finally reading it. Once I got started, I quickly realized what a treasure I’d stumbled upon. There’s so much good stuff packed into 304 pages, I can’t begin to cover it all. I will say that I have more dog-eared paged in BOUNDARIES, then I do in any other book I’ve ever owned. I didn’t realize I had boundaries issues until I read this book. There wasn’t a chapter I didn’t get something out of it or couldn’t connect with. I had thought about skipping the section on “Boundaries and Work”, since I’m no longer in the work field. I would have missed out if I had. It was a real eye opener to when I had worked, and packed with wonderful information if I ever decided to return to working. Boundaries are needed in all parts of our lives including, our family, friends, spouses, kids, and those we work with. We as individuals need to set our own boundaries as well. To not do so would only be cheating oneself. We also need to recognize that God has boundaries as well. BOUNDARIES will teach you all you need to know about boundaries in all aspects of your life, and how to apply them properly. I love the reference to Christianity, but even if you’re not a believer, I highly recommend this book. My copy of BOUNDARIES is filled with highlights, parentheses, and astericks. If I had to pinpoint the most valuable piece of information I took away, it would have to be in a paragraph on page 89. “What you can do is influence others. But there is a trick. Since you cannot get them to change, you must change yourself so that their destructive patterns no longer work on you. Change your way of dealing with them; they may be motivated to change if their old ways no longer work.” What amazing advice. How often do we gripe and groan about others? How often do we try to change others, whether in the way they act or what they say? And more importantly … how often do our efforts have a positive result? On page 89, BOUNDARIES teaches us that we are the ones that need to make a change, and by doing so, we may be instrumental in changing other’s life. I can’t even begin to guess how many people I’ve recommended this wonderful book too, packed full of knowledge for every person, written in a way that anyone can grasp. It’s a book that will remain in my home indefinitely.

So well written and applicable!! I want to give this book to so many of my friends. A real insight into people's behavior and an aid in dealing with people.

Extrem hilfreich und unterbewertet. Keine Augenwischerei, sondern ein solides Fundament für ein freies Leben. Obwohl man den Autoren den Background wissenschaftlicher Psychologie abspührt, basiert es auf konkreten Erfahrungen und der biblischen Grundlage. Es ist strukturiert und umfassend, ohne trocken zu sein. Man kann das Buch oder Teile davon immer wieder mit Segen lesen. Es hat meinen Glauben, meine Beziehungen, meine Ehe und andere Lebensbereiche stark bereichert. Ich habe das Hörbuch schon vorher gehört. Mit einem Buch ist es etwas übersichtlicher, da die Theorie sonst untergehen kann. Leider ist es in deutscher Übersetzung tw. sinnentstellend übersetzt und uninteressant aufgemacht.

I needed this book when I got married. WOW!!!

Dit boek heeft mijn leven echt veranderd. Grenzen heeft mij geholpen om beter te begrijpen waar mijn verantwoordelijkheid stopt en die van een ander begint. Dat klinkt misschien simpel, maar in de praktijk is dat soms heel moeilijk. Door dit boek ben ik gaan zien dat grenzen niet hard of liefdeloos zijn, maar juist nodig om gezond, eerlijk en liefdevol met jezelf en anderen om te gaan. Het gaf mij woorden voor situaties waarin ik mij schuldig voelde, te veel gaf, of moeite had om “nee” te zeggen. Wat ik sterk vind, is dat het boek niet alleen uitlegt waarom grenzen belangrijk zijn, maar ook helpt om ze stap voor stap toe te passen. Voor mij was het echt een eyeopener. Het heeft mij rust, helderheid en moed gegeven. Een waardevol boek voor iedereen die wil leren om beter voor zichzelf te zorgen zonder de ander uit het oog te verliezen. Echt een aanrader.

The book helped me reflect both on how boundaries develope in childhood and how I can apply them in adult life. I found it informative both for myself and for the Christian clients I counsel. I have made a lot of notes from this book. The update for boundaries in the digital age in the latest edition is also relevant and a useful addition to the book.