Girl, Snap Out of it!: Stop The Relationship Madness! Paperback – January 27, 2016

I am married to a wonderful man now, but I wasn't before and I can look back at my track record of boyfriends and an ex-husband now and see where I did a lot of stupid things. After my divorce, I was a wreck, feared being alone, a single parent, so provider, etc....now I look back and think WOW! was I stupid. My ex wanted to work things out at least that's what he said, but soon learned he had a girlfriend and was trying to manipulate me and our children out of paying Child Support and other things. Well, I learned very quickly to respect myself and my children and I no longer bent over backward for him, nor did I let him have control over myself, or my thoughts and feelings. I did everything by the books and he law and made him accountable for choices he made and he is now being held accountable to pay ALL back support that he chose to not pay and spend impressing his girlfriend. Not because I seek revenge, I could care less and I LOVE and RESPECT myself, but because it is owed to my kids. All, this to say that being SINGLE was the BEST medicine for me as I looked back and learned that I settled so many times in relationships and I went from relationship to relationship instead of focusing on me and LOVING myself enough to know what I DESERVED! now I am married to a WONDERFUL man who LOVE, ADORES, and RESPECTS me. He knows I DONT NEED him, but that I CHOOSE to be with him and I know he does the same. NO MORE MISERABLE relationships for me. LADIES LOVE YOURSELF & have RESPECT for YOURSELF!!!!

As girls and women we are taught to give give give, forgive, give some more, care for others, put others first, ect. Ect. Ect. So when it comes to relationships it's easy for lines to get blurred as far as fair treatment goes.I don't like how this book - keeps using the word "pathetic" as it's universal theme of what's wrong with the girl - and what " she's doing wrong".As it's so easy to get manipulated and not be able to see the situation objectively.In relationships it's mostly just the two of you in your own little world and right and wrong are not always so cut and dry and obvious.However: what this book is - is a gentle crash course that gives women permission not to give, give, give.I've read literally hundreds of relationship books.I think this book is best suited for young women who are just starting to date.Mothers give this to your daughters, ladies give this to any young female who is trying to figure out boys. (All of them). (12-25).I don't feel like this book speaks to the types of relationships that have extremely heavy issues involved such as: miscarriages, shared property, abuse from your past etc. (there are other books and support for that).But I do think this is a fantastic light hearted quick start guide to boys and relationships that helps stop trouble before it starts.

Even though the title of this book indicates it is geared for women, I found it to be extremely beneficial for myself, a man. I believe I gained much insight about how to effectively maneuver a happy and healthy relationship and felt it gave me ideas that I could use to promote being in one. It also educated me about how men are different than women, and I learned much about how both men and women need to be treating one another to prosper a good relationship. One thing that I learned is that whether you are a man or a woman, if you don't take care of your needs and put yourself first, and love yourself first, you put unnecessary strain on any relationship you may be into. I would recommend this book to anyone (straight, bisexual, or gay) who wants to be in a relationship and make it work between two people. T h e author gives good examples and scenarios of what should be happening if you are in a committed, loving relationship. Over all the best thing I gained from this book was the ability to love myself first, and the rest will fall into place. Very good reading in my opinion.

I read this book and thought I could have written this, but I have not made it to the other side. I am still in a partially communicated relationship that is on a merry go round. Every time I break it off, I find myself back with him.I have tried the abrupt approach; I need a new plan of action. I do agree that if you don't have any self-respect that you allow anyone to walk over you especially the man you have allowed to do just that. I was one to blame and bash the man. I just make excuses. But the bottom is me. I just need to work on putting myself first. I want to get to a place where I am content with or without a man. Financially I am independent.I am not looking for someone to take care of me.This book is good and easy to read. I like that Kelly is transparent. The stories of other relationships help to bring her point home. I have shared it on facebook and Pinterest. I am puzzled the price is higher than I heard Kelly mention on a video.

No one makes better sense of your unsatisfying relationship than Kellie King does. In 12-and-a-half (yes, you read that correctly) easy-to-digest chapters, she lays out the self-defeating behaviors that sabotage your happiness. She provides lighthearted case studies of couples that we all know OR have been, and provides insightful advice on how to better handle these scenarios in our own lives. At the core of "Snap Out of It" is Ms. King's goal that, instead of trying to change your partner, you become reacquainted with that woman who used to have plans and dreams. Get back to being YOU, and the "right" relationship will manifest. Maybe it will be with your current flame; maybe not. ("Breakups aren't always meant for makeups. Sometimes they're meant for WAKEUPS.") At the end of the day, when you learn to love yourself again, and become your own best friend, your whole life will become more rewarding.