Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World

SCREENWISE isn’t what you’d expect from a typical media literacy book. Its advice on how to help children learn to ask relevant questions about the content of games, movies, music, or TV programs is brief and arguably too general to be all that useful. If I was judging it based on that criteria, the book would probably get a 3-4 star rating.I give it 5 stars because SCREENWISE is a very, very good parenting text about how to help children negotiate life with cell phones and social networks. It would be a great gift for parents of children/teens who carry their own phones or tablets or ever log on to a social network or multiplayer gaming site (like Minecraft).This highly accessible book is written as a conversation between the author and the reader, but is clearly research based with a sound understanding of child development and developmentally appropriate expectations. She skillfully distinguishes between old issues in new wrapping and new issues introduced by the constant connectivity, immediacy, and permanency unique to the digital world.To help parents see things through their children’s eyes, Heitner includes the voices of kids (culled through her own research). She gives parents a “heads up” about the things they need to look out for and then provides practical advice about how to engage children in conversations that will build the skills they need to productively and ethically manage life with devices on their own. Her mantra is “monitoring cannot substitute for mentoring,” which is why I think this counts as a valuable addition to a media literacy library.This is not a perfect book. As Heitner recognizes, it is entirely focused on middle and upper-middle class families. It will have limited value for those who aren’t part of that demographic. For example, it doesn’t address cultural conflicts unique to new immigrants and their American children or the challenges faced by families in homes that have sub-standard or no Internet or cloud connectivity. It assumes a parenting style that relies on negotiating with children and engaging them in conversation about sensitive issues – a practice that is not universally accepted, either because it doesn’t mesh with parents’ values or doesn’t match their skill set.Despite the gaps, there are millions of families that are grappling with the exact issues that Heitner addresses. For them, this book is gold.

This book is truly a beacon in the darkness, both for parents who fear all screens and fruitlessly try to keep kids away from them, and for parents who may be worried by the amount or type of screen-based activities in which their kids engage, but remain hands-off and permissive because they don't know how to address it. Our family has screen-time limits for our school-aged kids, but so often these limits were leading to tantrums and power struggles because they were arbitrary. These limits lumped silly videos and games together with coding tutorials, historical research, and other far more useful online activities. In today's world, that simplistic approach just doesn't work. It makes kids feel bad about enjoying technology, when in fact we all use it multiple times a day (both for "redeeming" activities, and just for entertainment). Further, arbitrary limits set kids up to "cheat" when parents aren't looking-- and to lack the healthy awareness and guidance they need to navigate the online social world. It has been so helpful to approach technology in a new, more supportive way: taking an interest in the games of skill that our kids enjoy; using beloved characters from videos to discuss social skills in the real world; having open conversations about language and content that make videos and sites inappropriate for kids. I haven't even finished this book yet, and already I've had an incredible conversation with my daughter about a seemingly "silly" or "dumb" series of videos she kept talking about incessantly at the dinner table. It turns out that her interest in these videos was a way of working out an issue at school that was too hard to talk about directly. Once I took an interest in her interest, we were able to get to the bottom of things.Remember, this generation of kids is as good-hearted and hard-working as any generation in the past. Minecraft is not evil. Social media can be positive. Of course being glued to devices (or prioritizing them over real life) is not healthy, but Screenwise outlines helpful ways that parents can set a good example and get kids on the right track. The tone of this book is non-judgmental, optimistic, and so understanding toward Luddite parents like me, who have so much to learn. You don't have to be an expert in Pokémon Go or Roblox; you just have to get comfortable enough in your kids' world to guide them through it.

I began reading this in search of guidelines for more structured screentime. While this didn't really address that directly, it challenged my attitude toward technology and its place in our home and children's lives. I liked the positive outlook and questions posed which encouraged me to examine my concerns and what I am comfortable with happening in our home. It also provides excellent questions for discussion with our children as well as further resources.

This book was very useful for a project while i was studying. It is also a great book for modern parents. It offers parents a better understanding of children's fascination with gadgets, and helps them with tips to enter that world to guide, and support their children.

Looking for a way to feel more positive about the constant struggles with screen time management in our home. I found this book to be superficial and avoided the real issues of screen addiction. No brain science, no reference to kids with special needs, now a huge and growing population. Realised the promoters have links to tech industry.Helpful for parents of neurotypical kids with mild concerns possibly?

Raising kids in a digital age can be a bit daunting, especially if you have not quite figured it out for yourself. The tech age is constantly changing with new apps, games and devices vying for our attention. Digital media is pervasive and from a very young age kids have access to so much information. Am I the only parent that says "Ask Google" when my kids ask me yet another "why" question?Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World covers a broad range of topics to help kids become good digital citizens from how to navigate family life in the digital age, school life and friendships and dating, to helping parents become "tech-positive", and thinking about their kids growing up in the public online world.I definitely recommend Screenwise as one of the books to read to help navigate the new age of parenting digital kids.