Getting Through My Parents' Divorce: A Workbook for Children Coping with Divorce, Parental Alienation, and Loyalty Conflicts

First of all, this is NOT just for kids of divorce! It's great for all kids of high-conflict co-parents!So far I am thrilled with this book! My daughter is 9.5 y/o and has been dealing with a very angry, hostile father who duped the "family court system" into giving him 50% custody since she was 3. He is angry, abusive and excessively manipulative, more recently turning it all on our daughter with unchecked rage, trying to create loyalty conflicts, etc.etc. As a "co-parent" in these situations, it's so difficult. If you are living it, as I am, you know it's a damned if you do, damned if you don't setup. I've read all the books about how to "co-parent" with a narcissist" and how to... but there's only so much you can do. I was thrilled to find a workbook like this that my daughter can use on her own to discover for herself, exactly what is and is not appropriate behavior for a parent so she can make up her own mind. It offers pages where she can circle the issues "mom and dad fight about" and little stories about other kids with high-conflict parents, places to work out feelings/emotions, etc. I truly believe her realizing she is in a unique situation but is NOT alone is going to go a long, long way in empowering her to stand up for herself. I also love the "workbook buddy" idea! She has spent the last few nights reading and doodling in the book. Thank you to the authors and keep up the great work!

My 11-year-old daughter has recently started this book. She started and completed the first six pages. Then she brought it to me to review and we talked about a lot of the subjects in the book. So far she says it has helped a lot with her feelings and emotions. I also buy another copy for my eight-year-old that wanted to read it also. It is a workbook so they can write on a separate piece of paper their answers, but I advised to have their own copy so they can write in it freely.

As a child and teen therapist, I have found this book to be useful in my clinical practice.

Good ideas, but not solving the problems that needed solving in the case at hand. This book focuses mostly on what to do if parents have sustained arguments and conflict.

This book was recommended to me by my 10-year-old daughter’s therapist. This has been a great tool for her to do with me and without me, to process her emotions about her parents divorce. We really feel as though the tasks and example situations encourage her to open up in therapy and has shifted her perspective some. Definitely recommend.

We have barely gotten started, and it looks very hopeful. Excellent layout, and clearly designed to help children. A workbook such as this one, should be a requirement for divorcing parents to provide their child(ren). "The best interest of the children" I'm so worn thin on that loose phrase everyone loves to manipulate, but this workbook, truly has the best interests of the children in mind.

This book has been a amazing help for me to better understand my daughter feelings on me and her father divorcing... It helped bond me and my daughter again..

I got this book for a young teen, but it feels too young for them. I think it would work best for the 8ish-11ish crowd. It has some interesting activities and would be worth a try for a younger participant. Unfortunately ours arrived soaked through from the rain and is a bit worse for the wear from shipping though...

higly recommended it help me and my daughter make things easier.

This series is very helpful in a School Counselling Office and is easily adapted to younger children.

I purchased this workbook for my stepdaughter (9 years old) who lives with us and her mother since the age of 1 (50/50 time). As she gets older it has become difficult for her to understand the competing/conflicting narratives from both her parents. I was hoping that this workbook would provide a space to reflect on her values and help her to understand that situations are complex in relationships and certainly in divorce. My husband endured years of coercive control and physical abuse from his ex-wife (obviously not something that we discuss as we would like my daughter to have a good relationship with her mother).We hoped that this book would give her space to consider both sides of a divorce but instead the underlying tone is very offensive assuming that the father is the hostile and manipulative party who has abandoned his family and wants to fight with the dutiful and victimised ex-wife. Phrases in the exercises that stuck with me are 'even though your father acts like this don't forget that he loves you'. One situation at a soccer match (where both parents attend but the father keeps on calling out to his son at breaks so the son can not speak with his mother .... the author tells the reader (a child) that even though he feels bad that his father has stopped him from talking to his mother, his poor neglected mother will be ok.Thank God I read the entire workbook and decided that it was so wrong before just giving it to her to reinforce terrible behaviours on her mother's part. Having a stepdaughter who is already being manipulated to believe that her father is always as fault, this book seems to want to help and even aid this abusive behaviour on the part of the mother.From a psychologist with degree from prestigious university I had expected a workbook that did not take any sides but it seems that in the world of divorce and family law the view is still 'mother is always right' even when her behaviours are harmful to her children!!